Healthy Boundaries, Healthy Balance

walking-mediation-labyrinthHealthy Boundaries are thoughts, words and actions grounded in self-care practices. When we make self-care a priority; that is a mindset of, “I love myself enough to take care of myself first.” it’s easier to establish healthy boundaries.

Self-care is essential because when we’re feeling overwhelmed or over-extended, it helps minimize undue stress, potential burnout or illness.

Self-care prepares us to serve and support others, such as family, colleagues and clients from a wellspring of vitality and vigor.

Self-care positions us to recharge our batteries so that refreshed and renewed, we can fully share our gifts.

Five Principles of Healthy Boundaries

  1. Maintain alignment, balance and circulation in BodyMindSpirit through exercise, sound nutrition and proper rest.
  2. Ensure that your external environment supports healthy boundaries by avoiding clutter and maintaining order and organization.
  3. Take regular refresh breaks away from your computer to move your body, breathe fresh air outdoors and get a different perspective. You’ll be more clear-headed and more productive when you take refresh breaks to renew yourself.
  4. Learn when and how to say, “No”, “No thank you” or “No, not at this time” without guilt, shame or apology.
  5. Know what you’re responsible for, what’s yours to do and stay in your lane. Avoid trying to do or control what is NOT your responsibility, job or task.

For some, this may feel or sound harsh.  However, when we take care of ourselves first and model healthy boundaries, we’re better aligned, balanced, and focused, enabling us to serve and share our gifts from a spirit of optimal health and well-being.

Learn more tips, tools, strategies and processes to maintain or enhance your health and well-being from Releasing Stress, Creating Serenity A BodyMindSpirit Self-Care Primer for Busy Women by Harriet Tubman Wright, at:

Navigating the Holiday Season: Stop, Rest, Breathe and Smile! (Part 1)

The holiday season can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster ride from anxiety to exuberance to depression, all within a matter of weeks.  Attitudes change as temperatures drop and colder weather sets in. While we can experience an abundant harvest time, nature is actually settling into hibernation; animals are gathering and storing for winter. The rhythm of nature is slowing down, yet many people are caught in a consumption frenzy—-rushing, hoarding and stressed black divaoverwhelming themselves physically and financially.

This is also a time of year when many people transition…I was told recently that it’s the busiest season for florists. For some of us, the desire to be with family, dear friends and community is particularly strong, as well as feelings of loneliness, if we’re estranged or geographically distant from family or other loved ones.


With this range of emotions and activities tugging at us:

  • How can we cope, effectively?
  • Is there a sane way to move through it?
  • Where is the relief and respite?

To ease the rollercoaster ride, provide respite for the multiple demands of the season, and optimize self-care, consider these three strategies:

  1. Spend quality time outdoors in nature. Go to a park, the ocean or marina, forest or mountains and attune yourself to nature’s wisdom. Allow the sights, smells, and sounds enliven all your senses!
  1. Make pampering time a priority. Relax in a hot tub or soak in your home tub with bubbles, aromatherapy candles and soothing music! Treat yourself to therapeutic massage, reflexology or a reiki treatment.
  1. Check into a retreat center or engage in a silent retreat. Make it your way of slowing down, turning in and hibernating to renew your energy and spirit.

Moreover, if you want additional support and relief from anxiety, stress or burnout, so that you can experience greater ease and joy through the holiday season, please join:

The Wright Resort

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Reinforce Holiday Harmony & New Year Nurture!
4 Self-Care Sessions
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The BodyMindSpirit Self-Care Support Group consists of 4 weekly phone sessions with Self-Care Content and Group Coaching, designed to help you restore balance and peace of mind, calmly navigate the holiday season, and enhance your overall health and well-being to begin the New Year rested, rejuvenated, and re-inspired! Learn more and register here: 

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Navigate Change with Greater Ease and Flow

Maintaining Healthy Boundaries is essential to navigate change. This involves shifting our attitudes and behaviors so that rather than stressing out about change, we learn to embrace it or accept it with greater ease.

  1. Release worry about what you can’t control, such as technology, the traffic or your boss. 

    “I choose to be the good and do the best in all my interactions.” 

    When you shift your response, you shift your energy and can handle the situation from an empowered, positive place.

  2. Accept change as a positive opportunity, not as a threat. Look for the good in it. 

    “I embrace the opportunity to grow through each change in my life, so that I’m empowered and enriched.” 

    When you adopt this mindset, it frees you up to explore other options and create viable solutions.

  3. Waterfalls on RocksMaintain healthy boundaries by learning when and how to say “No”, “No thank you”, or “no, not at this time,” without guilt, shame or apology. 

    “I choose to maintain balance, flow and well-being by staying in my lane.” 

    When you learn how to maintain healthy boundaries, you will gain greater self-respect and the respect of your family members, friends and colleagues, plus navigate change in healthier ways.

  4. Rather than taking life so seriously, lighten up, feel the joy and learn to laugh at yourself. 

    “This too shall pass, so let me find joy and peace in this moment.” 

    Laughing elevates your mood, shifts the energy and makes you feel good.

Affirmations are a helpful tool to shift your thinking over time. However, true mastery of your mindset means uprooting negative and false beliefs programmed from childhood that are still influencing your thoughts, words and actions.  Replacing disempowering programming with BodyMindSpirit Self-Care Practices will keep you aligned, balanced and in the flow through the internal and external changes of life.


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BodyMindSpirit Self Care – A Powerful Antidote to Stress

  • Is the pressure of balancing family, work, business or community demands depleting you?
  • Do you feel like you’re overworked and underpaid?
  • Are you worried about attracting more paying clients to grow your business? stressed black diva

Stress is a normal part of entrepreneurship, especially for women who are also balancing the demands of family and volunteer or community activities. Yet we don’t have to let stress debilitate us. We can implement effective BodyMindSprit Self-Care Practices so that we manage our time and talents with greater ease and joy, plus serve our families, clients and communities from a place of wholeness, balance and joy.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed out, and ready to adopt self-care practices to release stress and create serenity, join us for:

The Wright Resort
BodyMindSpirit Self-Care

FREE Tele-Class

Tuesday, April 1, 2014
9am – 10am pacific, 12noon – 1pm eastern

You should be on this call if you are:

  1. Stressing out and unable to handle multiple demands on you,
  2. Allowing other people’s needs or agendas to absorb your time and energy,
  3. Ready to adopt self-care practices that will center and energize you,
  4. Open to serve others from a place of wholeness, balance and peace of mind,
  5. Ready to enhance your overall health and well-being!


“Self-Care is not selfish. In fact, it’s a requirement.” ~ Harriet Tubman Wright


Harriet Tubman Wright, MS, MA is a Phenomenal Life Empowerment Coach, Speaker, Author and Director of The Wright Resort, A BodyMindSpirit Wellness Center. Her book, Releasing Stress, Creating Serenity A BodyMindSpirit Self-Care Primer for Busy Women provides tools, strategies and practices to help you restore alignment and balance and cultivate a home and workplace environment to maintain optimal health and well-being.


Slowing Down the Pace

stress managementFor those of us who thought 2013 flew by fast, I suspect the pace of January 2014 affirmed that there is no slowing of the pace. To top that, we’ve entered the Chinese Lunar New Year of the Wood Horse. Whew!

For many of us, racing through life to “get ahead” isn’t feasible or sustainable, even though we may make significant progress or gains from time to time. This is helpful. However, when getting ahead gives way to getting a headache or worse a heart-ache, it’s time to re-assess. 

  • Where am I going and why?
  • Is this really my right path?
  • How is this activity serving me, my family, clients or community?
  • Am I truly listening to my inner guidance
  • What help or support do I need at this time? 

This necessary “re-assessment” time can be a ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ experience, an accident or illness, or other “Wake-Up” call. It’s usually Spirit’s way of saying “Slow Down. Be Still. Stop.” 

When you find yourself at the re-assessment stage, consider one or all of these 3 suggestions:

  1. Take a Day Away. Spend quality time in nature to shift the energy, breathe fresh air and get a different perspective. Nature has so much to teach us when we avail ourselves to her wisdom.
  2. Make a Gratitude List. Keep writing until you get to 99 things you have to be grateful for…and you can probably name a few more. This changes our view of things.
  3. Lovingly Release. Determine what thoughts, things or people are keeping you stuck, confused or anxious. Lovingly release them and allow the open space to be free of encumbrances. Over time you’ll begin attracting positive empowering energy. 

These 3 suggestions are a great start and a great way to shift energy, so that what’s really essential for you becomes more clear and compelling.

If you want additional support for your “re-assessment”, schedule a complimentary Seeding Success Strategy Session ($197 Value). Learn more and Schedule here:


Harriet Tubman Wright, MS, MA is a Phenomenal Life Empowerment Coach, Speaker, Author. She empowers you to enrich your life through programs and services of The Wright Resort, A BodyMindSpirit Wellness Center. Learn more:


Maintaining Healthy Boundaries to Build a Healthy Business

woman walking country pathIn my book, Releasing Stress, Creating Serenity, A BodyMindSpirit Self-Care Primer for Busy Women, I state that: “Self-care is not selfish. In fact, it’s a requirement. Self-care is the mindset of: ‘I love myself enough to take care of myself first.’”  In doing so, you lovingly prepare yourself to serve and support your family, clients, customers and community from a place of wholeness and balance.

When who you are and what you do expresses your divine purpose and passion to empower those you serve, and you are fulfilled by the fruits of your service, you are demonstrating BodyMindSpirit alignment, integrity and well-being.

Stress happens when one or more components of your BodyMindSpirit are out of sync, alignment or balance.

To manage stress, it’s important to maintain healthy boundaries. A healthy boundary is equivalent to staying in your lane. A healthy boundary is clean, simple, orderly. It is having focus, flexibility and faith. On a personal level, that could be:

  • Please don’t disturb me now. This is Mom’s self-care time. I will give you my full attention as soon as I finish meditating, soaking in the tub, taking my nature walk.
  •  Saying “No, No Thank You, or No, Not at this Time”, when appropriate, without apology, guilt or shame.
  • Honey, remember, Thursday is ‘Girls Night Out’ for me. You’re on your own with the kids for dinner tonight. 

Being successful in business requires that you focus priority quality time on revenue-generating activities such as sales and service calls; program launches; marketing or direct client service delivery with up-sells. Please note that writing your ezine, engaging with social media and networking activities are building relationships that may or may not generate revenue. Therefore, maintaining healthy boundaries for a healthy business and applying the principles of clean, simple, orderly could be 1 or more of these 3 Tips: 

  1. Allocate two or three set times/day to respond to emails and do social media posts. Establish a time-frame. For example, 30 minutes at 11am and 30 minutes at 4pm. Do not engage with emails outside the set times, because it pulls you into other people’s agendas and often siphons your energy from directly serving clients!
  2. Designate specific days for specific tasks in 60-90-minute intervals. For example, Tues and Thurs mornings are devoted to Sales Calls and Coaching Clients, while Mon and Thurs afternoons, I devote to marketing.  It’s a very helpful guideline and discipline that keeps me focused and in the flow long enough to complete one priority task as a time, rather than multi-tasking.
  3. Hire a Virtual Assistant, Student Intern or Business Mentee to handle routine administrative tasks or specialized tasks such as market research, tech support, scheduling client appointments, or business-related shopping. Having business support on a part-time, full-time or special event basis is vital! 

You’re putting these or similar healthy boundaries in place to free yourself up to be and do what you do best, that is sharing your unique brilliance, creativity, and expertise with clients, helping solve their problems and relieve their pain.

Stick to Your Schedule, one day and one week at a time. Be Consistent. Remember to stay in your lane and keep it clean, simple, orderly.  Over time, you’ll develop the discipline to stick with it, especially when you see that doing so helps you serve more clients and generate more revenue.

Harriet Tubman Wright, MS, MA Phenomenal Life Empowerment Author, Speaker, Coach is Founding Director of The Wright Resort, A BodyMindSpirit Wellness Center, through which she empowers mature women entrepreneurs and managers to unleash their true essence and unique brilliance so they become vibrant, passionate, prosperous leaders transforming people and the planet. Her book Releasing Stress, Creating Serenity, A BodyMindSpirit Self-Care Primer for Busy Women is available at: