Evolving from Self Care to Soul Care

Stress is being out of alignment, balance and coherence by not honoring or expressing your true essence, soul’s calling and innate creativity, a condition that leads to dis-order and dis-ease mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually; and is therefore reflected in your external environment.

Recognizing the grave impact of stress on your health in relationships, finances, livelihood, my work with women initially focused on the importance of incorporating daily self-care practices to help release stress.

Key Self-Care Practices include:

  1. Implementing daily BodyMindSpirit practices such as regular exercise, sound nutrition and proper rest;
  2. Cultivating positive beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, words and behaviors that create healthy empowering results in your life;
  3. Maintaining healthy boundaries by learning when and how to say “No”, “No thank you”, or No, not at this time” without guilt, shame or apology;
  4. Taking “time out” for pampering, play and quality time in nature;
  5. Celebrating wins, successes and achievements.

More recently however, I’ve begun to explore and promote the concept of Soul Care, specifically in relationship to living your purpose and fulfilling your Soul’s Calling.

Your Soul’s Calling is your true essence, divine nature and ultimate purpose. It is remembering, honoring and expressing who you’re meant to be and what you’re born to do. Your Soul’s Calling is the wholeness, authenticity, integrity, and sovereignty that energizes, motivates and sustains you! It is your inheritance and your legacy!

Soul Care is fulfilling your Soul’s Calling; being true to yourself, trusting your intuition and allowing every thought, word and action to evolve from your soul. In this way you maintain alignment, balance, coherence. You emanate peace and bliss!

Soul Care is living your Soul’s Calling doing what you most love in utmost service to people and the planet. Doing so means that you are in the divine flow of being who you’re meant to be and doing what you’re born to do!

  • In what way(s) are you living your Soul’s Calling?
  • What does Soul Care mean to you?
  • How do you describe your contribution(s) to people and the planet?
  • For what are you most proud or content?
  • Is there something different or more that you want to be or do?

 

Self-Care and Soul Care practices are essential to sustain a purposeful and prosperous life. – Harriet Tubman Wright

Are you listening? You Soul’s Calling. Learn more: https://www.thewrightresort.com/

A Healthy Mind Leads to a Healthy Life

“No limit is placed on you; only the limits of your mind. Free your mind and know that your possibilities are truly unlimited!” – Harriet Tubman Wright

May is National Mental Health Awareness Month. The theme for 2018 is #CureStigma. According to the National Alliance on Mental Health, NAMI, one in 5 Americans is affected by mental health conditions. Stigma is toxic to their mental health because it creates an environment of shame, fear, silence that prevents many people from seeking help and treatment. However, stigma is 100% curable with compassion, empathy and understanding.

  • How do you define mental health?
  • What is your response to the term mental illness?
  • Do you have family members or friends who contend with mental health challenges?

There are several definitions of mental health. 1) Mental health refers to our cognitive, behavioral and emotional wellbeing – it is all about how we think, feel and behave. Mental health affects daily life, relationships and physical health. It includes a person’s ability to enjoy life – attain a balance between life activities and efforts to achieve psychological resilience. And the definition that I prefer: 2) Mental health is a state of well-being in which the individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community. (World Health Organization)

  • What keeps you functioning optimally in body, mind and spirit? 

Mental Health Challenges

Many factors contribute to mental health challenges:

  • Biological such as genes, brain chemistry or nutrition
  • Hormonal changes
  • Trauma or abuse
  • Environmental factors
  • Grief and bereavement
  • Life-threatening illness
  • Stress (finances, work, relationships)

Note that stress is very common with the most negative effect on your well-being. You’ve been impacted by one or more of these factors at some point in your life. The degree to which you navigate, cope with or overcome these factors influences your overall health and well-being. And whenever you’re unable to effectively handle these challenges; feel angry, depressed, irritable, anxious for a prolonged time, or even suicidal, you can seek support from a friend, counselor, spiritual advisor, health practitioner or doctor. The key is to release any sense of shame, fear or resistance and get help! In my own life, I’ve experienced bouts of depression that have led to hospitalization, out-patient care, prescribed drugs and therapy. Fortunately, I’ve successfully moved through these periods of depression with the loving, non-judgmental, practical support of my birth family, church family and village family. Working with a few sensitive, skilled talk therapists has helped, plus taking prescribed anti-depressants on a short-term basis. Compassionate staff who encouraged me to play with arts and crafts; creative activities was also beneficial. Over time, I’ve learned that spirituality, creativity, community, service, growth and freedom are essential to my health and well-being in body, mind and spirit. The perception of mental illness and the stigma against people with mental health conditions won’t change unless we each act to change it. This is one reason I’m using National Mental Health Awareness Month to share the fact that throughout my adulthood, I’ve dealt with mental health challenges and feel grateful to have received appropriate support, even when I was initially kicking and screaming about it…

“You can take refuge in depression without allowing it to become your residence.”  – Harriet Tubman Wright

 I hope the insights and information are helpful and welcome your feedback! Please see a list of related resources below: Releasing Stress, Creating Serenity A BodyMindSpirit Self-Care Primer for Busy Women, by Harriet Tubman Wright at: NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. https://www.mentalhealth.gov/basics/what-is-mental-health http://canwetalk.ca/about-mental-illness/factors-affecting-mental-health/ https://www.mindmatters.edu.au/about-mindmatters/news/article/2017/09/15/factors-affecting-womens-mental-health https://www.nami.org/Find-Support/Diverse-Communities/African-American-Mental-Health

Metamorphosis, Memories and Milestones Lessons along the Way…

When I retired from the public service sector, seeking to operate The Wright Resort on a full-time basis, I faced a steep learning curve through unfamiliar terrain; sales, marketing, social media, networking and revenue generation. New terminology, new technologies and new relationships characterized my entry into solo-entrepreneurship.

January 2018 marked 10 years in business full-time, as Director of The Wright Resort, a BodyMindSpirit Wellness Center, dedicated to Social Consciousness and Feminine Leadership to evolve people and the planet. I’m helping creative women career professionals and solo-preneurs use their talents, gifts and skills to fulfill their Soul’s Calling, step into their power and prosper doing what they most love as leaders to transform businesses, workplaces, communities and the world. BodyMindSpirit self-care practices with spiritual activism and conscious action tools are being utilized to support mature women to be and confidently become the change they seek, within themselves and the world. In doing so, they co-create a new paradigm of feminine power and conscious social change.  Learn More 

If anyone had told me that being in business for myself was a spiritual journey, and that I was embarking on the next phase of my personal and professional evolution, I would not have initially understood. However, having been tested, stretched, challenged, strengthened and compelled to “grow” in every aspect of my life, I now understand that The Wright Resort has evolved based on my own spiritual and creative evolution, and thus programs and services are flowing from self-care to soul care to social change, incorporating elements of spiritual activism, expressive arts and community building.

Now for a few lessons:

  1. Be authentic, vulnerable, compassionate and loving with yourself and your clients/customers.
  2. Be willing to stretch beyond comfort, familiarity and routine. Be willing to risk new learning, so that you can up-level your skill-set and offerings based on your increased capacity to “grow” your clients/customers.
  3. Be clear about your expertise solving a specific problem that your ideal client is willing to invest in solving. Become recognized as an expert and authority for your unique brilliance.
  4. Be focused on breakthroughs and benefits that you facilitate for and with your ideal clients/customers. Establish fees based on the “value” of the transformation that you facilitate; the methodology is secondary.
  5. Be willing to invest in a support team of paid and volunteer assistants who can handle routine, clerical or project-specific tasks that free you up to share your valuable expertise with clients/customers.
  6. Be open to collaborating with partners whose client base is similar and skill-set is complementary with yours, so that you create a win-win-win arrangement that optimizes value to clients/customers and revenues to you.
  7. Be vigilant about investing in and retaining a coach or mentor that keeps you accountable, stretching and growing, so that you excel beyond self-imposed limitations to be and do the best in highest service to yourself and your clients/customers.

These lessons are applicable if you’re an entrepreneur, career professional, community leader or volunteer. Based on your experience, what lessons would you add?

Moving on Up

As many of you know, I’ve been celebrating my birthday throughout April, making quality time to review achievements and set intentions. I’m so excited and grateful that I already have visions for celebrating my 70th birthday in 2019! And, I’m establishing a birthday account at the credit union!

If you’d like to join me…and I hope you do, please share your ideas, suggestions, resources and contacts. Let’s make it a global affair!

“Use what you know to grow and circulate the flow of greater good in life.”
– Harriet Tubman Wright

 

Proven Strategies to Stay Healthy and Happy While Navigating the Holiday Season

The holiday season can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster ride from anxiety to exuberance to depression, all within a matter of weeks. Attitudes change as temperatures drop and colder weather sets in. In North America, while we may experience an abundant harvest time, nature is actually slowing down and animals are preparing to hibernate. Yet many people are caught in a consumption frenzy, rushing through shopping malls, overwhelming themselves physically and financially.

With a range of emotions and activities tugging at you, contemplate:

  • What can I change to cope more effectively?
  • Is there a healthier way to move through the holiday season?
  • How can I experience greater ease, serenity, and joy at this time?

First, accept that you have the potential for healthy change. Determine what’s most important for you and expect to enjoy the holidays. Consider these options:

Optimize Self-Care Practices to Release Stress and Create Serenity.

For example:
  1. Spend quality time outdoors in nature. Go to a park, the beach, forest or mountains and attune yourself to nature’s wisdom. Allow the sights, smells and sounds to enliven your senses.
  1. Make pampering a priority. Relax in a hot tub or soak in your home tub with bubbles, aromatherapy candles, and soothing music. You can also treat yourself to therapeutic massage, reflexology or a Reiki treatment.
  1. Check into a retreat center or engage in a silent retreat. Make it your way of slowing down, turning in and hibernating to renew your energy and spirit.

Implement Feasible Spending Parameters. Rather than face the New Year in debt and regret, develop a spending plan. Use discernment and discipline, not a denial of this season’s expenditures. For example:

  1. Give gift certificates or handmade gifts. Exchange items that you’ve never used or no longer use with friends. It’s a gift for the new recipient. 
  1. When gathering with family or close friends, make it a potluck or go to a favorite restaurant agreeing that everyone will chip in on the tab.
  1. Take advantage of the post-holiday sales and share gifts in the New Year.
  1. Create a holiday season savings account and make monthly deposits.

Reconnect with the true meaning and rituals of the Holy Day season within your faith tradition.

In addition, you may choose to engage in community service or volunteer at a shelter. Help gather and/or distribute care packages to the homeless. The gift of your time and talent can make a positive difference for people, as well as boost your level of gratitude.

I’ve shared several options to help you experience optimal bodymindspirit well-being during the holiday season. Implement one or two options that appeal to you or one that you and a family member or friend can do together. Create your own stress-free, fun-filled strategies. Furthermore, if you’ve slacked off your normal health regime, don’t wait until the New Year. Resume it now, so that you start the New Year invigorated and empowered.

Whatever strategies you choose to navigate the holiday season, do so with an attitude of gratitude, appreciation and celebration. Make time to relax, re-assess and rejoice, allowing yourself to end this year and begin next year joyfully.

Holiday Bliss and Blessings!

Healthy Strategies to Cope during Tumultuous Times

Healthy Strategies to Cope during Tumultuous Times

  • How would you describe the past 6-8 months?
  • What has changed for you during that time?
  • For what can you take conscious action now? 

The accelerating pace of change is unsettling. Regardless of your allegiance, widening polarity between political rivals is alarming. For young and old, uncertainty about finances, health, housing and livelihood is growing.

How are you to deal with these stresses and regain your balance?  

Strategies and anchors that I find particularly helpful:

  • Maintain Spiritual Practices to Stay Grounded and Centered

Prayer, Meditation, Hatha Yoga and Tai Chi are practices that can easily be incorporated into your daily routine.  These anchors help you manage and minimize stress, and generate a greater sense of balance and harmony.  In spite of the demands on your time and energy, you can experience peace of mind when you make spiritual practices a priority.

What spiritual practice keeps you steady and calm?

  • Engage in Regular Exercise

We know that some kind of daily exercise is essential for good health. Cardio workouts are great, especially when you’re angry, frustrated and feel you can’t take it anymore. Do some kick-boxing or karate jabs. Play one of your favorite party jams and boogie down. Swim laps or join a zuumba class. Or simply power-walk at a comfortable pace. Team up with a partner for tennis, racquetball or golf!  Any of these workouts will shift your energy. My favorite workout is hula-hooping because regardless of how I feel when I start, I’m laughing by the time I’ve finished!

How did you exercise today?

  • Keep a Gratitude Journal

Although I have been journaling for years, keeping a gratitude journal is an empowering practice. Yes, you can certainly be shaken up, worried or even pissed off about the news, the commute, the weather, your boss or spouse.  And, you can always find something for which to be grateful; you woke up this morning, from a comfortable bed, with a roof over your head. You got a bargain deal on something that you’ve wanted or needed. Someone complimented you on a suggestion you made, or the way you handled a challenging situation. You and your family arrived home safely. Expressing gratitude not only shifts your perspective, it generates more to be grateful for!

Name at least 3 things for which you are grateful today. 

  • Ask for Help.

Call on your prayer partner, accountability buddy or coach. They can listen without judgment, help you consider options or offer a different outlook. In turn, be willing to help someone else. In the process of supporting them to problem-solve, you are also likely to see things differently for yourself.

Who might you call on for help?

  • Join a local movement.

Earlier this year, I joined a cross-cultural, multi-generational group engaged in peaceful efforts to challenge systems of inequity and polarization, and secondly utilize communication strategies to diplomatically engage with the presumed “other.” It is an empowering work in progress that can ultimately lead to community-building and positive change from the ground up. It has been a very stimulating coping strategy!

What local organization or group would you join to contribute to positive social change during these challenging times?

  • What strategy are you willing to incorporate in your life now?
  • Would you share other healthy strategies to cope during tumultuous times in the comments section?
  • Do you want additional support? Contact me at: harriet@thewrightresort.com

 “Your vision of what’s possible and your desire to make it happen must be bigger than your fear.” – Harriet Tubman Wright

Healthy Boundaries, Healthy Balance

walking-mediation-labyrinthHealthy Boundaries are thoughts, words and actions grounded in self-care practices. When we make self-care a priority; that is a mindset of, “I love myself enough to take care of myself first.” it’s easier to establish healthy boundaries.

Self-care is essential because when we’re feeling overwhelmed or over-extended, it helps minimize undue stress, potential burnout or illness.

Self-care prepares us to serve and support others, such as family, colleagues and clients from a wellspring of vitality and vigor.

Self-care positions us to recharge our batteries so that refreshed and renewed, we can fully share our gifts.

Five Principles of Healthy Boundaries

  1. Maintain alignment, balance and circulation in BodyMindSpirit through exercise, sound nutrition and proper rest.
  2. Ensure that your external environment supports healthy boundaries by avoiding clutter and maintaining order and organization.
  3. Take regular refresh breaks away from your computer to move your body, breathe fresh air outdoors and get a different perspective. You’ll be more clear-headed and more productive when you take refresh breaks to renew yourself.
  4. Learn when and how to say, “No”, “No thank you” or “No, not at this time” without guilt, shame or apology.
  5. Know what you’re responsible for, what’s yours to do and stay in your lane. Avoid trying to do or control what is NOT your responsibility, job or task.

For some, this may feel or sound harsh.  However, when we take care of ourselves first and model healthy boundaries, we’re better aligned, balanced, and focused, enabling us to serve and share our gifts from a spirit of optimal health and well-being.

Learn more tips, tools, strategies and processes to maintain or enhance your health and well-being from Releasing Stress, Creating Serenity A BodyMindSpirit Self-Care Primer for Busy Women by Harriet Tubman Wright, at: https://www.thewrightresort.com/releasing-stress-creating-serenity-book

YOUR SOUL SAFARI TO SUCCESS